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Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
ITA - no one stays exactly the same forever, and lots of people are able to learn from their mistakes and become better for it. I just don't think that you can go into a relationship hoping/expecting that the other person will change. You have to accept your mate for who he or she is, not what they could be. Ha, this totally reminded me of that Seinfeld episode where Jerry is dating Janeane Garofolo! I think that we are talking about extreme ends of the spectrum. I wouldn't want to date someone who is a carbon copy of myself, but I also wouldn't want to date someone who is my polar opposite. Luckily, there is a vast gray area in between. Natasha aka candygirl :: MSCL.com
Look, if this is weird for you, being tutored? I don't mind helping you a little longer. You could have sex with me if you really want to help...I guess that's a "no"? Maybe when I was 19 or 20. But at my age? I would not be attracting to those men acting like jerks. Total turn-off. I am so happy I am not in the dating world right now. "I have all these dreams where I know exactly what to say. And you tell me, you know, that you forgive me."
Hee, that totally reminds me of Carrie Fisher's character in When Harry Met Sally: "Please tell me I'll never have to be out there again!" Natasha aka candygirl :: MSCL.com
Look, if this is weird for you, being tutored? I don't mind helping you a little longer. You could have sex with me if you really want to help...I guess that's a "no"?
Talk about timing - not only were we just talking about this last week, but the article was released just in time for Valentine's Day.
From yahoo news: The article isn't available online yet, but the abstract is available at the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology website:
Natasha aka candygirl :: MSCL.com
Look, if this is weird for you, being tutored? I don't mind helping you a little longer. You could have sex with me if you really want to help...I guess that's a "no"? I agree. There is something to be said for opposites attract but I don't think it's an attraction that many people have any desire to explore. It can get way too complicated. Myself I'm more attracted to those similar to me though someone more confident, even "in your face" is appealing, at first. But to be involved with someone who has vastly different political beliefs or dietary preferences would become a pain in the ass all too quickly.
the lesson i actually took out of it might be something in between the happy camp and the cynical camp... it seemed to me with their "...okay." "Okay." at the end, they were acknowledging that everything could go terribly wrong all over again, but that the experience was worth taking the risk for. which i really like as a lesson... sure, everything could crumble before you and hearts can get broken, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't experience love just because you're afraid of what could happen in the future. i thought of it as an interesting little twist on the "tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" adage. it's a lesson joel learned while his memories were being erased as well... in that heartbreaking moment where he asks if he can keep that one perfect memory. even though nothing had changed in his present life and him and clem were still broken up and he was deeply hurt, he still begged to keep that one memory, because ultimately it can be more powerful than all the pain that may have come later. oooh my title's been promoted from "overlooked little sister!!" yay! hahaha! and to add to the discussion about opposites attracting... if anyone's taken the meyers-briggs personality test, my psych professor administered it to us in school and told us that according to some studies, if i'm remembering correctly, it seems that personality opposites are very compatible in certain aspects. For example, the E (for extroverted) and I (for introverted) are very compatible because they balance each other out and help each other feel more comfortable in their own skin. I think the only opposite pairing that was quite incompatible was the N (intuitive) vs. the S (sensing), because it has to do with the way you see the world. N is more big picture, thinking of the future and the possibilities, S is you see what's right in front of you, very much existing in the now. It seems like the little things can be opposite and it just adds passion and excitement, but if the big things like the way you see the world are off, and your focuses are completely different, you can run into problems. I just thought that was a really interesting look into how opposites sometimes do and sometimes don't work... i'm sure there's more info on the myers-briggs personality type compatibility, but i'm just running off memory right now. ![]() My boyfriend and I are complete opposites, I'm more shy and quiet, he's outgoing and stubborn, and we're into totally different things, but it's kinda cool cuz we open up new possibilities for each other. I'll learned to appreciate sports, and he's actually starting to find sensitive art films fascinating. ![]() I bet you can actually die of embarrassment. I bet it's been medically proven.
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