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I'm just realising ...

Posted: Oct 18th 2004, 2:24 pm
by wicked
that I spend way too much time alone... :morning:

Posted: Oct 18th 2004, 4:47 pm
by fnordboy
I'm just realising that I much prefer my time alone then in the company of others. I think it has to do with growing up.

Posted: Oct 18th 2004, 10:52 pm
by lance
fnordboy wrote:I'm just realising that I much prefer my time alone then in the company of others. I think it has to do with growing up.
I am totally mood driven, sad but true. Somedays I can't get enough of people. Other days hiding under the bed is the preferred option.

-LanceMan

Posted: Oct 18th 2004, 11:03 pm
by TomSpeed
I've been spending too much time alone, too. I'm 36 years old, and I'm still not sure where the cool kids hang out. Women aren't randomly knocking on my door. Any suggestions? I've been thinking about a church singles group, but such a group might be limiting. I'm a little geeky for bars. No women are around in my immediate work area. My friends know me too well to set me up with family members. I tried an online dating service. No one wanted me. What does that leave? Grocery stores? Strip bars? :oops:

Posted: Oct 19th 2004, 12:17 am
by Jody Barsch*
Heh, I just had this conversation with a friend of mine two nights ago. She too mentioned grocery stores. I have an ongoing flirtation with a checker at my local Whole Foods :wink:

Posted: Oct 19th 2004, 6:45 am
by Nostradamus
fnordboy wrote:I'm just realising that I much prefer my time alone then in the company of others. I think it has to do with growing up.
I wouldn't know about growing up ( :P ), but I too am feeling less need for socialization. Not that I'm a social butterfly now; if anything I could probably use a few more good friends, but solitude is really underrated.

Posted: Oct 19th 2004, 10:12 am
by wicked
TomSpeed wrote:I've been spending too much time alone, too. I'm 36 years old, and I'm still not sure where the cool kids hang out. Women aren't randomly knocking on my door. Any suggestions? I've been thinking about a church singles group, but such a group might be limiting. I'm a little geeky for bars. No women are around in my immediate work area. My friends know me too well to set me up with family members. I tried an online dating service. No one wanted me. What does that leave? Grocery stores? Strip bars?
(((TOM))))

I knonw I'm still waitting to find the cool kids too...except they'll make me start smoking again ;)

dating is such a pain, as far as internet dating goes, you really have to be a great self promoter. My frined Gilles is about 5' 6" bald and chubby...he has been dating up a storm on the internet. He started out really slow, because he did the sorta sad little picture, and se;lf deprecating bio. We worked on his picture/bio and now...he's getting TONS of dates! we should work on this.

Church singels groups could be ok but like you said limiting. hmmm...have you looked into the speed dating thing? A frined of mine had fun doing that. Also the big thing frineds ( male) have told me about "dating" is to try and think of it all as practice so even a bad date is just a practice date :)

geeeze...why do I always feel the need to try and help fix things???
always feel free to ignore anything I say!!! :shock:


sigh...well I'm glad I have this place and others to at least talk during the day...I do find that I have days where I do not speak ( other than to my kids) untill about 8pm when the hubby comes home.

poor sad me.


NOT THAT I DON'T ENJOY SOME ALONE TIME!

Posted: Oct 19th 2004, 11:18 am
by starbug
Heh - at this point I would kill for some 'me' time... I love my own company (well, I think that's more to do with me going through phases of hating the company of others...) and at the moment I don't have time to even sit and read a book. It's self-inflicted, but a result of me undervaluing have time to just do the things I want to do without having to reach some kind of 'compromise' about what will happen (selfish? moi? :oops: ).

I need to realise that I actually enjoy that time alone more sometimes than I do socialising.... just because everybody feels this big pressure to socialise all the time doesn't mean it's the healthy thing to do.

Sometimes other people are SO tedious. Present company excepted, of course :D

Posted: Oct 19th 2004, 11:25 am
by SanDeE*
I feel like I'm just the opposite. I don't get as much alone time as I would like. My boyfriend somehow always talks me into hanging out with him instead of chilling out by myself. And when I actually have some time by myself, I can't really just chill out and read a book or draw, do something relaxing that I'd love to do. When I'm alone I have to work on homework - composing, painting, studying history, other stuff like that. Not that I don't love composing and painting, but it IS homework for right now, and that tends to change a person's attitude about things you love. I'd love to have an afternoon all to myself where I don't have to do homework or anything, I can just do some yoga, read a book, draw a little bit, watch a girlie/artsy/dramatic/indie movie I've been wanting to see (not that I don't like the action/kung fu/comedy movies that my boyfriend picks out, and not that I don't make him watch my picks sometimes!). Oh man I need a break. Of course, when summer comes along and I have the time to do those things, I'll miss school and being busy. Can I just not be satisfied? <sigh>

Posted: Oct 19th 2004, 12:44 pm
by wicked
I think it's the shift in my life actually...I mean I'm a mother of 2 kids...one who is ADHD/ODD/Behavioural so I've lived a large protion of my adult life NOT being alone ever! Now both my kids are in school full time, and I'm not working outside the home, so I spend a great deal of time alone. I am a "balther-me-skite" so I need conversation. I may decide to go back to work in something just to be more social, but I hate retail work and my creidentials are all well out of date so I would need to retrain..which caus' problems becasue I still have to get my kids from school and I am trapped out here in SUBURBAN HOUSE WIFE HELL!!

sigh

pitty me :?

Posted: Oct 20th 2004, 8:33 pm
by lance
TomSpeed wrote:I've been spending too much time alone, too. I'm 36 years old, and I'm still not sure where the cool kids hang out. Women aren't randomly knocking on my door. Any suggestions? I've been thinking about a church singles group, but such a group might be limiting. I'm a little geeky for bars. No women are around in my immediate work area. My friends know me too well to set me up with family members. I tried an online dating service. No one wanted me. What does that leave? Grocery stores? Strip bars? :oops:
Depends on who you want to meet.

Want to find women who like art? Visit a museum or take an art class. Want to find women who like books? Join a book discussion group. Generally speaking the activity in question will at least give you something to talk about.

Singles groups are okay, at least because everyone there is presumably looking for someone else who is single.

As I am in a similar watercraft as yourself I am still exploring my options. If something works for me I will pass on the info.

-LanceMan