Guys...
Posted: Sep 16th 2004, 7:47 am
Why is it that just when guys start to notice you, someone you care for dearly comes to realize how much you mean to them? Sometimes it feels like dealing with men requires a passport.
Nah, you'd fit right in have you witnessed some of the geek conversations on here?!wicked wrote: ( I could quote star trek at this point but that would really be showing my geeky side )
Classic or Next Gen? One guy I knew actually freaked over all my action figures. Like, his thing was collecting women. I certainly never nailed him on that one. He was past sell-by date rather quickly.wicked wrote: ( I could quote star trek at this point but that would really be showing my geeky side )
It won't go beyond the chase for sometime, as it can really only lead to marriage and neither of us is ready for that. Plus, there's the expectation of kids looming over us. Nuh-uh. I've got enough to deal with sorting through my own life. I have to be honest here. I make a better aunt than mother. Besides, as women, we mother the world. *Sigh*wicked wrote: I guess the thing is that they get to SEE you in a different way, they see that you are desirable to others, which makes them re-evalute how they saw you int he first palce. Be careful though because a lot of the time the chase is what makes it interesting, not the getting.
I think he may have briefly seen someone which caused him to reconsider things. I'm touched, to be certain, but this is someone I very much want to see happy...even if not with me. Friendship does funny things to you. I don't want to compromise what we have for a chance at something that might not last at this point.Nothingman wrote:We want to be with someone who has market value. The more people who are interested in you the more that will be interested in you. That's why these things seem to come in waves. We also like a challenge, if we can have ahead of the other guys who are interested in you then we have established that our value is higher and therefor it's an ego boost to us. This works the same way with the genders reversed as well.
As far as someone close to you finally telling you how they feel, they have been put in a situation where they must make a choice. Before they were content with the possibility of something developing, or were just too shy to ask. Now, with other people in the picture they have to act on that possibility or accept that the possibility would be gone. Now that the stakes are higher its worth risking the friendship where before it wasn't.
It's usually frustrating that they couldn't tell you it sooner, but this is the way things go. Ideally you want to always appear in demand, even if you aren't. The better you get at this, the more substained the interest in you becomes.
True, but you get to a point where you just know that you want to wake up with the same person everyday. That their well being is paramount to you. That theirs is the shoulder upon which you wish to nestle your head tonight, tomorrow night, and the night after that... Something does come after all the games, and I expect it must be worthwhile.wicked wrote:ROFLMAO...OK I was going to quote SPOCK in AMOK TIME
"After a time, you may find that having is not so
pleasing a thing after all as wanting. It is not logical; but
it is often true."
doh! and there I was being all cool and grown up...snerk.My DH has to deal with my ST obsession on a daily babsis. When he worked for Geordi la forge...oops I mean Levar Burton I made sure I got to meet him!
sorry DH= Dear Husband, also known as Hubby or the hubster.
True, but you get to a point where you just know that you want to wake up with the same person everyday. That their well being is paramount to you. That theirs is the shoulder upon which you wish to nestle your head tonight, tomorrow night, and the night after that... Something does come after all the games, and I expect it must be worthwhile.
DH? ^_^
Aren't you the lucky one! How did the two of you meet? I know about the bilogical factor only too well... *Groan*wicked wrote: sorry DH= Dear Husband, also known as Hubby or the hubster.
OH I'm in total agreement with you.I'm married 12 years...or 13 ...sheit...sorry LOL . I'm just talking about people wanting things, or suddenly finding something/someone attractive because someone else has/wants it. I think that has more to do with Biology than anything else.
awe..well I was quite a club kid back in the dya..LOL I had it worked out so I could dance for free every night. ANYWAY I digress, so on one of my nights out dancing I ran into an old friend from art school who I hadn't seen in a few years..when I waved to him across the dance floor he though "hey I'm gettin lucky tonight" I thought he was just thinking "Oh there's noelle."Aren't you the lucky one! How did the two of you meet? I know about the bilogical factor only too well... *Groan*
I kind of had the reverse thing happen to me last winter. Maybe a week after my best friend proposed to his girlfriend of five years, he told me he had feelings for me -- to the extent that he was talking about what our future lives would be like together... I had always thought there was a little crush between us, but what he started telling me took me completely aback. They were married this spring, and I'm still reeling.Nothingman wrote:As far as someone close to you finally telling you how they feel, they have been put in a situation where they must make a choice. Before they were content with the possibility of something developing, or were just too shy to ask. Now, with other people in the picture they have to act on that possibility or accept that the possibility would be gone. Now that the stakes are higher its worth risking the friendship where before it wasn't.