Posted: Jun 17th 2003, 2:27 pm
Love is not an effort, Love takes effort. There is a difference. I'm going out on a limb here and guess that you are a teenager or young 20 something. You've been burned, and burned very badly. I assume this because you seem to hold a very destructive outlook toward love.I mean if love is just an effort then that's all it'll ever be.
Once again I'm not trying to pick on you or any thing. Just pulling out what I can see in your statements for your reflection.
I urge you not to seal yourself off from the feelings of others. Its fine to be content and/or "happy" with your life, but don't outright dismiss sharing your enjoyment and happiness with another person, you might be surprised when they share their happiness back with you.
This is a very curious statement to me. It doesn't feel like the standard "grass is greener" type of issues, but something deeper. Can you expound on what it would mean to you if you were in love with someone then met another person that you also had feelings for? I don't want to push you. I just want to understand why this would be such a significant issue for you."what makes you think that what you feel for someone is to be exclusively for that someone?" With all the people in the world how do you know what you feel for your significant other is only for them?