Re: Can you say "emotional abuse"
Posted: Jun 27th 2000, 8:47 pm
The life of a teenage girl is inherently emotionally abusive...what I mean is, as far as relationships and boys go, just about any guy is going to make you hurt at some point and time (yes, I am sure there are those lucky ones that don't, BUT). For example, for the entire length of high school, I had a crush on the SAME guy. As I got to know him, he sometimes seemed to be attracted to me as well. We would be very close for periods of time, but then, when it was convenient to him (like, let's say, a prettier girl paid attention to him, or something like that), he would almost completely ignore me. It's a bit more complicated than that, as most things are, but you get the general idea. Anyway, some might consider it emotional abuse- I know that some of my friends did at the time. BUT it wasn't. It wasn't intentional, he was just being a teenage male. And just so you know, 6 years after I met him, we're still just friends, but we ARE friends.
Sooo, in saying all that...I think that Jordan is just being normal, or as "normal" as a guy with his background can be. He has trouble relating to Angela, and therefore trouble dealing with her emotions. Both he and Rayanne regret the whole betrayal incident, plus, don't forget that Angela and Jordan had actually broken up when that happened. I also think that Angela makes Jordan nervous sometimes. Remember when they were supposed to have their date, and Jordan kept hanging around playing his guitar, almost like he was afraid to face her. Maybe he thinks she will think he is stupid. Along those lines, think about the whole making out in the boiler room and taking her to the house to have sex....it's like those are the parts of the whole relationship process that he has mastered. Those are the parts he's good at. If he can't do the conversation part well, he WANTS to do the other part well, and when Angela "ruins" that part for him, and tries to focus back on the conversation, it upsets him to the point of being irrational. Does that make sense? Once again, I haven't been home from work long and I'm not thinking real clearly. =)
Sorry I haven't been around in a while! I hope you guys aren't tired of this topic because I'm curious to hear more of what you guys have to say about this. This is an excellent discussion topic!
BTW, I just ordered the DVD, so I should have it in a week or so. Yay!!
Tracey
Sooo, in saying all that...I think that Jordan is just being normal, or as "normal" as a guy with his background can be. He has trouble relating to Angela, and therefore trouble dealing with her emotions. Both he and Rayanne regret the whole betrayal incident, plus, don't forget that Angela and Jordan had actually broken up when that happened. I also think that Angela makes Jordan nervous sometimes. Remember when they were supposed to have their date, and Jordan kept hanging around playing his guitar, almost like he was afraid to face her. Maybe he thinks she will think he is stupid. Along those lines, think about the whole making out in the boiler room and taking her to the house to have sex....it's like those are the parts of the whole relationship process that he has mastered. Those are the parts he's good at. If he can't do the conversation part well, he WANTS to do the other part well, and when Angela "ruins" that part for him, and tries to focus back on the conversation, it upsets him to the point of being irrational. Does that make sense? Once again, I haven't been home from work long and I'm not thinking real clearly. =)
Sorry I haven't been around in a while! I hope you guys aren't tired of this topic because I'm curious to hear more of what you guys have to say about this. This is an excellent discussion topic!
BTW, I just ordered the DVD, so I should have it in a week or so. Yay!!
Tracey